THE ROLE OF GRANDPARENTS IN PARENTAL ALIENATION.
- nickallan5
- Oct 9
- 2 min read
Consider the pain and agony suffered by the parents of the alienated father/mother. Not only do they have to witness the distress and angst their own child is going through but, they also, are deprived of the joy of being a part of their grandchild’s/grandchildren’s’ lives. They are even more powerless, isolated and desolate.
BUT also consider the less discussed activities of the parents of the Alienator. They can act with even more poisonous vigour than the culprit themselves. They may be the enablers of the abuse and even more venomous in their attitudes. The Alienated parent is fighting against the odds.
· The parents of the Alienator may provide
“moral” support to the alienator
financial support,
legal support,
support in the interaction with the Social Services
provide “refuge” for the child when the intention is to keep them away from the Alienated parent.
the same manipulation of the child/children – emotional abuse, gifting, blackmail, cajoling, warning against the Alienated parent, threatening and controlling.
Within my own journey, there was even abduction of my child whilst my wife was in hospital (alcohol induced liver failure) and after she passed away. In the end, I had to pay them to regain access.
My son is now 26 and, even now, experiences flash backs of his treatment at the hands of his mother and her parents – not least because of the violence and alcoholism in that household. His opinions of his grandparents are extremely negative, not least because he found years’ worth of my letters to him in the bottom of their wardrobe, opened and with the money I regularly sent him, removed. This, while all the time, telling him that I had abandoned him, didn’t love him and had moved on and started another family (untrue).
No parent or grandparent, in their right mind, would set up a child to experience such pain and trauma – unless they are special types of sociopaths.
#parentalalienationawareness #parentalalienationisreal #ParentalAlienationSyndrome #parentalalienation
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