PARENTAL ALIENATION - A CHILD'S THOUGHTS

I've written a lot about the impact of parental alienation from the standpoint of the victim. I've even tried to get into the mindset of the alienator,

However, let's not forget about the real victims ... the children.

I've often been asked "Do the children really believe what they're being told about me?"; "Do you think there's any chance that they will ever want to see me again?"; "How long can this go on?"; "What do the children really think?" ..... and a million other questions.

Knowing about the horrors of this from a parent's point of view, is different to a child's perspective.

But I'm lucky - I got my son back. Of course, we talk about our pain and grief, but no words of mine can truly express what he would say to you. So, for those of you going through this terrible pain now, I give you his thoughts, in his own words:

"What I went through as a child has permanently scarred me. Being taken away from my father for years, had an awful effect on my mental health.

Even at the age of 8, however, I’d formed my own opinions of both parents and knew where and when I felt safe. My maternal family attempted to influence me with lies such as ‘he doesn’t care’ or ‘if he cared he would try contact you’ and so on. I’d seen with my own eyes the efforts my father made to contact me, only to have my ‘family’ pull me away with force and punish me for reaching out to my dad. Even to a child this made no sense.

When I’d finally escaped the grasp of the controllers, I still felt distress, a lack of motivation and an overall sense of discomfort. This was because I was so isolated for years, unsafe, troubled and having nobody to turn to. I guess there might have been people I could trust but I couldn’t mentally force myself out of the ‘bubble’ I’d isolated myself in, to minimise any more chances of harm or danger coming to me.

Now, I’m where I want to be in life and happy. I may still have the odd nightmare, or flashback, but overall, I feel much better now, than I ever did.

These things won’t last forever despite it feeling eternal at the time. But nothing will prepare you for the vice-like grasp of a controller/manipulator. They don’t care about the damage it can do to someone or the consequences.  They will isolate you from everything and everyone, making you feel totally alone. But the fact of the matter is you aren’t alone.

People may attempt to silence us but stay silent we shall not. Do not give up hope."

I hope his words give you some comfort and hope!

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