Redefining Strength
A Journey Through Life
About
Nick “JJ” Allan is an author who explores the darkest corners of the human soul where fear, tragedy, desperation and hope collide. His book ‘One in 7?’ has been years in the writing and tells a raw and harrowing story of a father’s fight to protect his son from the dangers, ravages and threats which can arise from the most unexpected place – the family!
Born and raised in the northeast of England, Nick has worked at senior levels in multinational companies and ran his own enterprises. While he regards himself as an ‘unremarkable man’ his story is one of extraordinary horrors, fears, parental alienation, isolation, courage and hope. With ‘One in 7?’, he invites the reader to join him in that astonishing journey. Each chapter is an individual tale of shock, emotion and dreadful climaxes. Together, they form a gripping and emotional roller coaster with an incredible and unexpected ending.
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"The emotional impact of this book stayed with me long after I finished it. I truly believe it could help other fathers in similar situations feel less alone, understood, and validated.
A deeply emotional, powerful and important read I would strongly recommend it". Lisa O
"There is no exaggeration here just a painful, truthful insight into what can happen behind closed doors, and how isolating it can be when support services turn a blind eye". Peter C.
"Such a captivating empowering book, really recommend it! Emotional, turbulent but inspiring! Highly recommend ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️" Beverley G.
"1 in 7 is written with unparalleled honesty and with raw emotion on his harrowing experience, shedding light on the silent struggles that quite literally ‘1 in 7’ men endure behind closed doors.
This powerful narrative will stay with you long after you’ve turned the final page." Lauren
"The other side of a narcissistic relationship where the woman is 'Dominant'. She treats him like a slave whilst using his son as a force against him." Yvette T.
‘One in Seven?’ is the generally accepted statistic that 1 out of every 7 cases of domestic abuse is committed against men. The ‘?’ behind the title indicates to the author’s experience and belief that this vastly understates the reality of an epidemic sweeping the nation. It’s also a table-turning story of a perverse and prejudiced system, resulting in parental alienation, sponsored by the agencies of local government.
It is a deeply personal narrative covering the tumultuous period in a man’s life when he’s the target of domestic abuse, his partner’s controlling and violent behaviour and her battle with alcoholism. In particular, it concentrates on the harrowing effect on their son, which ends in tragedy.
The book highlights the hurdles faced by a father, against violence, coercive control, lack of institutional support and the outright prejudice and hostility from the very organisations who supposedly, have a statutory duty of care. It tells of the eventual tragic loss of his son under the most extraordinary circumstances before an uplifting account of reconciliation years later.
The story is told with hopelessness and hope, desire and dread, fear and fortitude, disillusion and desolation, frustration and fury but also with humility and humour.
MEDIA PACK
When we think of domestic abuse, many imagine physical violence. But abuse is much more than bruises and broken bones. It can be emotional, psychological, financial, or sexual. For men, the experience can be complicated by societal expectations of masculinity. Men are often told to be strong, silent, and self-reliant. This makes it harder to admit vulnerability or seek help.
I’ve heard stories of men being belittled, controlled, and isolated by their partners. Some have been threatened or physically harmed. Others have faced emotional manipulation that left them doubting their own worth. The pain is real, even if it’s not always visible.
One man told me, “I felt like I was losing my mind, but I couldn’t tell anyone. Who would believe me?” That question haunts many men. The fear of disbelief or ridicule keeps them locked in silence.
During and after an abusive relationship, men can suffer the scourge of Parental Alienation. It often goes hand-in-hand with domestic violence and abuse. PA lurks in the shadow of family breakdown. It’s painful, confusing, and deeply personal. It can twist relationships, leaving scars that last a lifetime. When a child is turned against a parent, it’s not just a family issue - it’s a profound emotional wound.
As I travelled my own personal journey, I became acutely aware that, for a man, there is little help either in face-to-face or written forms. Whilst the writing of 'One in Seven?' was cathartic, it allowed me the opportunity to tell someone. That someone was myself. However, I came to realise the importance of sharing with others - men and women who suffer as I did. In doing so, I hope to bring some support by helping them to realise that they are not alone in that deep and dark space. Furthermore, my experiences may indicate ways forward (or routes not to travel). I also hope to play a part in exploding the myth about domestic abuse and Parental Alienation peddled by radical feminist groups and barristers.
Parental alienation effects can feel like an insurmountable obstacle to carrying on a 'normal' life. But I believe in the power of resilience and connection. Even in the darkest moments, there is potential for healing and reconciliation.
If you’re facing this struggle, know that you are not alone. There are resources, professionals, and communities ready to support you. And most importantly, your love and persistence matter. They can make a difference.
I want to keep the conversation going. By sharing stories and insights, I shine a light on this often-hidden pain. Together, we can challenge the silence and build a future where every parent and child has the chance to heal and thrive.